Beware of those who use you in relationships

The right man or woman will love you for your heart and mind, and not just for your body or wallet.

Above all else, he or she will value your top character traits, whether that be kindness, faithfulness, loyalty, intelligence, integrity, or a great sense of humor.

A good man gives precedence to a woman's feelings, goals, and passions over the size of her breasts and how good she is in the sack.

A good woman focuses on ways his qualities complement hers rather than how much money she can wring from him.

(And let's not make the dangerous mistake of pigeonholing men and women into traditional gender roles. Some women can be just as superficial as men when it comes to looks, and some men are on a mission to find only sugar mamas.)

But we'd be remiss if we didn't concede that physical appearance and financial resources do count to a certain degree.

Would most of us want to go on a date with someone who's 300 pounds overweight, broke, and deeply in debt? Probably not.

But if someone is merely looking for a partner with good looks or gobs of money, that's the kind of individual you should steer clear of if you're looking for something serious and permanent.

Sadly, these opportunists are adept at keeping their true intentions under wraps. They may come off as genuine when you first meet them, but gradually you begin to see that they have ulterior motives.

And even when you discover the deception, they may show very little remorse for their actions.

As I've stressed in other posts on this blog, some people are only out for themselves. They don't love you or care about your feelings, as much as they may say they do.

To say that we shouldn't care at all about looks or money is a bit of a stretch. Those things should be factored into one's choice of partner, but they shouldn't be the most important criteria.

If they are, then he or she is definitely not ready for a serious commitment and should only look for similarly shallow people to fool around with.

Never allow yourself to be taken for granted!

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