True strength comes from THIS

True strength comes not from what you do, but from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn't.

Whether it's thinking that learning a new language is too difficult, that a better job is out of reach, or that leaving an abusive relationship is near impossible, we can overcome these mental roadblocks we set for ourselves by:

Believing in ourselves
Adopting a positive mindset
Working hard to reach our goal
Accepting that occasional setbacks are normal
Never giving up

You can do anything you set your heart and mind to. It may not happen exactly when and how you want it to, but you must never lose hope if you wish to prevail.

And achieving success sometimes involves taking difficult steps, like reaching out to others for help, reworking our whole strategy if not starting all over from scratch, putting up with people who may try to get in our way, and sacrificing ample resources (whether mental, financial, or time-oriented).

But the biggest stumbling blocks to success may be our own negative thoughts -- the ones that tell us we can't do something, that we're likely to fail.

If people had always given in to such thoughts over the ages, we wouldn't have found cures for certain diseases, built architectural wonders, or come up with inventions that have revolutionized the world.

As Thomas Edison once said, "I haven't failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't worked. The renowned inventor also quipped, "Genius is 1 percent inspiration, 99 percent perspiration," suggesting that hard work plays a tremendous role on the often-rocky road to success.

Don't let the fear of failure paralyze you. Rather than allow yourself to be consumed by what can go wrong, why not think about what can go right? Redirect your thoughts so that you can imagine yourself defying the odds rather than falling short.

Let positive thoughts cancel out the negative ones. Come out of your comfort zone and work toward a better life for yourself. With hard work, patience, and persistence, anything is possible.

You can do it!

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