Don't be anyone's doormat

Don't allow anyone -- from your closest friend to your worst enemy -- to step all over you.

No matter the circumstance, you are as deserving of the other person's respect as they are of yours.

If you're in a relationship with someone who thinks they can run roughshod over you because you've spoiled them rotten, it's time to establish new ground rules or get out of the relationship. Otherwise, you'll continue to be taken for granted.

Similarly, if your friend seems to remember you exist only when they need something, make it clear to them that there is no such thing as a friendship built on selfishness. As with relationships, both people should reciprocate time and effort.

If your toxic boss is convinced you'll put up with anything just to keep your job, prove him or her wrong by arranging a closed-door conversation. Impress upon them that they have absolutely no right to treat you like garbage, and hint that you'll take your skills and experience elsewhere unless changes are put in place.

Unfortunately, many of us love giving and giving to the point where we never bother to ask for much in return. Opportunistic as they are, these individuals exploit our good nature for their own benefit.

Unless you stand up for yourself, people will eat you alive. Whether you're home or in the workplace, you have a voice -- and it deserves to be heard. If someone is out of line, call them out on it. You don't have to be rude or condescending to put your point across. Be tactful and firm at the same time.

Relationships --- both personal and professional -- can be beneficial in many ways, but the wrong ones can adversely affect our well-being. That's why it's imperative you communicate that you're not one to be trifled with. If that still doesn't change the dynamics of the relationship, you're better off finding a new job, friend, or partner.

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