Some people might say the person is probably content with their life, so there's absolutely no need for them to make waves and fix what isn't broken. Others may have a different opinion; they might surmise that the person is likely sad and that his or her life could use an infusion of fun and excitement.
So who's right?
One thing to keep in mind is that we don't know exactly what this individual is going through in his or her life, and it's possible we may not have a good grasp on their personality.
What we can say is that if the person cares little to nothing about the following things, chances are he or she is in fact leading a happy life:
- What others think of them
- Having the "perfect life" because they recognize there's no such thing
- Every little thing others say or do
- Material items
- Having the ideal job
- Pleasing everybody
In other words, those who are happier don't make their happiness contingent upon others -- nor do they tie their happiness to material possessions. They don't make mountains out of molehills because they're conscious of the fact that sweating the small stuff gives way to disillusionment.
They recognize that happiness comes from within -- not from external sources like people or objects. As I've noticed in prior posts, things and people can enrich our lives, but they cannot complete our lives because only we are capable of doing that.
Your idea of a happy life might be considerably different from mine. Still, the more any of us depends on things and people to feel fulfilled, the less happy we'll be. People, in particular, are so unpredictable -- they can be nice one minute and stabbing you in the back the next.
While there's no question that caring about your loved ones, job, home, and other possessions is completely reasonable, your happiness should not be inextricably linked to them.
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