2 kinds of people who give excuses

There are two kinds of people who give excuses when it comes to establishing or maintaining contact with you:

(1) Those who give excuses for why they can't call, text, or visit you, and (2) Those who come up with excuses to call, text, or visit you.

Notice the difference?

While the former can sometimes serve up valid reasons (e.g., have to take care of kid, have to do work at home, etc.), if the weeks continue to go by and the person doesn't bother to answer your texts or return your calls, face it -- they just don't care enough about the relationship.

The latter group shows the exact opposite. Come hell or high water, they find a way to squeeze some time into their schedule for the two of you to catch up because they value you and do not want the relationship to falter.

A little distance is commonplace even in the healthiest relationships. We all lead different lives with disparate schedules and changing priorities. But that doesn't mean a brief phone call can't be arranged every so often, and maybe a face-to-face meeting at least once a year.

In fact, the strongest relationships are those in which both people can pick up right where they left off -- whether they last touched base a week or year ago.

People make time for those who matter to them. When someone isn't high up their priority list, some may have the urge to shunt those individuals aside.

To me, the worst offenders are the ones who string others along with promises of talking on the phone or meeting up for a bite to eat, but never deliver.

If you have no intention of connecting with him or her anytime soon, don't say you will. It comes across as disingenuous. Telling someone what they want to hear just to placate them is about as good as lying to their face.

If this becomes a habit of his/hers, it should raise serious questions as to their level of commitment to the relationship.

If you sense you're being taken for granted, it may be time to call the relationship goodbye. There's no supplicating in a relationship between two individuals who genuinely care about one another.

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