The reason we walk away from people

Usually, walking away from someone has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.

You may be asking how this is possible.

Well, those who have had to walk away from relationships because they've felt abused, ignored, or taken advantage of can attest to one thing:

They didn't do it because they wanted to show the other person their worth. They did it because they themselves realized their worth.

It was at that defining moment in their lives that they knew they could no longer be with someone who diminished them.

Instead, they knew that the right person would enhance their life; he or she would help them grow into an even better version of themselves.

But as long as they hesitated to walk away -- likely because of the paralyzing fear of being alone or having to start all over -- their destructive partners would continue to hinder their progress and fill their lives with angst.

If someone is causing you tremendous pain, and you just can't seem to get through to them, don't just sit there and take it. You deserve to be happy just like everyone else. Reach out to loved ones for support. Enlist the services of a counselor. Rest assured it's a battle you don't have to deal with all on your own.

Unfortunately, we often meet someone who sweeps us off our feet -- only to realize later that the "real" them is corrosive to our well-being.

Don't settle for less. There's someone better out there for you -- someone who will enrich your life beyond measure.

Enough is enough. Move on and don't look back.

Comments

Unknown said…

As far as i know its u guys who made me sick.
Then do u even know why i walked off?

January 30, 2019 at 11:34 PM

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