The only one who can fill your emptiness is...

The only person who can fill that empty feeling you have is none other than you.

Don't look to your friends or family, for their company works only as a temporary band-aid. Friends come and go. While many of them may genuinely care and worry about you, they'll only go so far to help you out. They have their own problems to tend to.

You're the only one you can count on 24 hours a day, seven days a week, to keep your spirits up. Your friends and family can't be there for you each and every time you feel a little blue.

Many of us have been led astray into thinking that others make our life complete, but this couldn't be farther from the truth.

You complete your life all on your own; others merely enhance it.

If you're feeling empty or depressed, take a deep breath and look inward -- not outward for solace. The key to your happiness lies within you.

Perhaps you worry too much about others and not enough about yourself. Maybe taking up a new hobby -- whether learning a new language or how to play a musical instrument -- will work wonders for you.

Don't underestimate how valuable a quiet walk amid nature or a relaxing song can be for you. Sometimes the simplest things in life bring us the most happiness.

As I alluded to earlier, a surefire way to feel empty is to depend on others to be happy. People change. They're shifty. One minute they're reliable, and the next they leave you in the dark. Why would you place your happiness in the hands of someone who may ultimately let you down?

When you adopt a positive mindset, that emptiness slowly withers away. Be grateful for what you have -- a roof over your head, food, friends, family -- rather than focusing on what you feel is missing.

Your life is only as empty as you make it out to be. If you feel there's something you can do to enrich it in the New Year (e.g., starting a new business), set new goals and work diligently to achieve them.

But again, only you can break those feelings of emptiness -- not your spouse, kids, friends, or anyone else. Never give up on yourself. You're capable of amazing things so long as you continue to believe in yourself.

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