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Don't let anyone dull your shine!

Stop for a moment and pay careful attention to the words that follow, for they could change your life in a big way:

You are a wonderful person -- one unlike any other on the face of the earth. You light up the world with a unique blend of talents, skills, and quirks. You've achieved great things and have so many more feats awaiting you. Others look up to and admire you. You inspire greatness in others and radiate optimism. You have every reason to love yourself for who you are. 

 Inevitably, some people will envy you. Some will try to tear you down. Some will spread lies about you in an effort to get you to share in their misery.

But you don't have time for such naysayers. You embrace your uniqueness and love yourself to the fullest, not allowing anyone else to cramp your style or dampen your high spirits.

You recognize that no one knows you better than you know yourself. No one else pays your bills or is there for you every single second of your life. You're your biggest ally in your life, and so you owe it to yourself to stand up for what you believe in. To never compromise your values no matter how heavy the social pressure may be. To embrace your uniqueness and never allow yourself to be cajoled into changing who you are to placate people who may not even be in your life a month from now.

You know better than anyone else whom or what's best for you. Your gut hardly ever lets you down.

Don't let others' opinions of you override your own. No one can make you feel bad without your consent. If you allow what people say to get to you, you're signaling that they've essentially overpowered you -- that what they say and think about you matters so much as to ruin your day.

Life is too short to spend your time seeking others' validation. You're better than that. And you know it.

If someone isn't content with the real you -- if they press you to change something about yourself that you love as is -- they have no business being in your life.

Embrace your individuality!  There will never be another you -- someone with your exact temperament, interests, and idiosyncrasies -- in this world again. Instead of harping on the fact that you're different, focus instead on the sweet feeling of knowing that they're all the same -- and you don't want to be like them.

Love yourself. Celebrate your uniqueness. Cease seeking the approval of others who only want you to be more like them so they can feel more comfortable in their own skin.

Don't let anyone dull your sparkle. Be proud of who you are and never change for anyone but yourself!
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