Know what today is? It's this...

Today is the oldest you've ever been, and the youngest you'll ever be again. So said Eleanor Roosevelt, the longest-serving First Lady of the United States.

You needn't harp on the past or stress over the future. Why? Because you have little to no control over either one.

The past is the past and cannot be undone. What lies ahead is, of course, a big question mark: even if we do things today to help shape a better tomorrow, we really can't foresee what lies on the horizon. Things may go our way, as planned, or they may not.

That being said, what is there to do then? You got it. Focus on the present.

Mindfulness means embracing in a non-judgmental way what's currently unfolding in your life. You neither cling onto nor reject the present; you simply accept it.

We aren't getting any younger, which makes living for today all the more important. Don't shelve your goals for another day; start on them right now!

You don't want to wake up one day and realize that your preoccupation with the past and anxiety over the future have impeded you from enjoying what each day brings.

Believe that today will be better than yesterday and tomorrow will be even better than today.

When you convince yourself that the present can't possibly be better than the past -- that your glory days are well behind you -- it won't be long before feelings of despondency set in, and this is a slippery slope you'll want to avoid.

Instead, focus your thoughts not only on what you've accomplished and can accomplish down the road, but what you can accomplish today.

Focus not only on the memories created in prior years or ones you look to create in the near future, but on those you can create today.

The only way to take stock of your life is by assigning the most importance to the present -- not the past or the future.

Don't let life pass you by while you think about what happened then or what could be later on. There's so much to do, see, and accomplish in the present. Indeed, the possibilities are endless!

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