Stay in control of your life

When life knocks you down, refuse to give up. Get back on your feet and hit it back -- and go for nothing short of the jugular!

You're in the driver's seat of your life. Never let other people -- or circumstances over which you may have little to no control -- get in the way of your happiness.

Life is too short not to fight for what you want. Life is too short to throw in the towel anytime something doesn't go as planned -- whether you didn't get the job or the girl.

Instead of wallowing in self-pity, focus your energies on what lies ahead. Instead of thinking that you missed out, consider that even better opportunities are in the offing. Maybe all it takes is to work a little harder and fine-tune your approach.

If something bothers you too much -- if it has you down in the dumps -- it's because you're letting it have control over your thoughts and feelings. Don't let anything negative hold so much sway over you!

For example, let's say someone does something unexpected/out of character to upset you, leaving you scratching your head over why they behaved in such a way. Is it really worth it to spend the next couple of days ruminating over the incident? Of course not, because chances are they're not even thinking about it -- or you.

Once it becomes apparent they're making no effort to mend fences, don't invest any more time and energy in the person -- just move on! Focus on people and hobbies that put you in a great mood.

Never underestimate the power of positive thinking, which involves resisting the urge to:

Compare yourself to others
Yearn for more rather than appreciate what you have
Let others control your thoughts and actions
Think you're below others
Harp on past events
Give up when things don't go as anticipated

Let others worry about their own lives; don't give them the power to intrude upon yours!

With hard work, patience, persistence and a positive demeanor, you can overcome any obstacle and achieve any goal. When something or someone tries to stop you from getting there, show them that you'll stop at nothing to reach the finish line!

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