SMILE, it could be worse

That's what I always tell myself when I'm angry over something that really isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things.

Isn't it funny how many of the things we complain about are ones that we might not even remember in a year's -- or even a week's-- time?

We sweat the small stuff. We make mountains out of molehills, all while other people out there have it far worse.

Whenever you feel tempted to sound off about something that's bothering you, stop and ask yourself whether getting all bent out of shape is really beneficial.

That's not to say you shouldn't stand up for yourself, or that you should keep silent when someone is doing something that isn't on the up and up.

However, we often say and do things that we later come to regret because we let our emotions get the best of us. We feel so compelled to win an argument or get our way that all rational thinking goes out the window.

When I find myself in such a negative emotional state, I take a breather and say, "I'm thankful for all my blessings. Others would love to be in my position."

That alone changes my mindset -- and, in turn, my attitude -- completely.

When you shift from focusing on something you're not happy about to the things that make you smile and are thankful for, it makes a huge difference on how the rest of your day goes.

The trick is to stop such negative thoughts from trickling into your mind.

We're all human and are bound to get upset over something at some point. But we can't let our worries and gripes fester, as this may lead to depression, anxiety, and other negative health outcomes.

Talk to a friend or counselor if you need to. Allow yourself to enjoy hobbies and pursuits that will distract your mind.

Believe that things will get better and they will. Keep your head up and don't lose hope. When you stop and think about it, your life is probably a lot better than many of the people you come across out in the world.

Focus on bigger, better things. Remain in control of your thoughts; don't let them control you!

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