Women don't fall for jerks. They fall for...

Women don't fall for jerks... They fall for confident men.

In my view, no attribute draws women more to men than self-confidence. Self-confidence is the ultimate attraction builder.

He doesn't have to be the best-looking, richest, smartest, or funniest man. Of course, all of those enhance his appeal, but they're not nearly as consequential.

A man who knows what he wants and goes for it full throttle, in most women's eyes, is an irresistible aphrodisiac. Women love men who will let nothing or no one get in the way of their dreams -- even the women themselves. They love it when men exhibit boundless ambition.

Unfortunately, too many men mistakenly assume that giving women flowers and compliments is all that's needed to build attraction. Women are highly perceptive -- they know when you're going overboard on the flattery just to get in their pants or win their approval.

But that's just the thing. A confident man doesn't need a woman's approval.

A confident man says, "I choose to live my life this way. I choose to pursue these goals. You can either strap in for the ride, or I'll go find another women who will."

Women don't want men who cater to their every whim, as this conveys weakness and the inability to stand up for himself. If a man doesn't believe in himself, why should she believe in him?

There is, of course, a fine line between confidence and cockiness. Once a woman perceives that he thinks he's better than she is, she'll immediately get turned off. Indeed, displaying an air of arrogance won't help a man's cause at all.

A man can be firm, courteous, and respectful without seeming like a pushover or a jerk. Learning how to balance the three can sometimes seem like a juggling act, but men can get better at it over time.

In closing, men should never feel as though they must radically change their personalities in order to reel women in. If you feel pressured to do that, that women is probably not the right one for you. The key is to project to women that you love yourself and your life.

That you don't need her to be happy, but you feel like she'd enhance your life even more. That whether she chooses to hook up with you or not, you'll continue to enjoy your life and strive for success. THAT bespeaks self-confidence.

Ladies, do you agree?

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