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When you should walk away

There are certain times in life where, after much sweat and tears, it only makes sense to walk away from something, whether it be a troubling relationship, dead-end job, or other unfavorable circumstance.

Though walking away can often be difficult, life is too short to endure circumstances so trying that it becomes difficult to get out of bed every day and face the world.

If you're in an abusive relationship, walk away. No one deserves to suffer that way at the hands of a partner who's lost their way and doesn't show the slightest interest in mending fences.

If you're in a relationship where you're being taken advantage of despite being heavily invested in it (emotionally and otherwise), walk away. You deserve better than to remain with a person who blithely takes you for granted.

If one of your friendships, whether new or old, no longer adds value to your life, walk away. There's a season for every friendship in our life; once distance and other lifestyle changes water it down to the point where you feel more like acquaintances than close friends, you're better off leaving it behind and making new amigos. Use the lessons you learned in the friendship to guide you in future ones.

If your job no longer fulfills you, and you have other great opportunities knocking on your door, don't be afraid to walk away. Though change may be frightening at first, you'll only grow personally and professionally by moving on to bigger and better things.

Don't let fear or complacency inhibit you from making changes that can ultimately enrich your life.

And don't pay any attention to the naysayers. If your gut is telling you that it's time for a new job, relationship, or other significant change, listen to it -- and take action. No guts, no glory.

Don't let what could go wrong prevent you from acting on your instincts. Instead, focus on what could go right. You can do it!

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