What if you choose the wrong person?

Many people have asked me this question concerning relationships:

"What if I give someone a chance, only to get hurt by them later on?"

The fact of the matter is that getting hurt is always a real possibility in any relationship.

We all enter into a relationship with high hopes. In the early stages, the other person might seem so incredible that you would think they fell from the sky.

Gradually, though, one's true colors come out, and they may not always be to our liking.

No one's perfect, though, and relationships are all about accepting and working through each other's differences.

It's when those differences become irreconcilable that the relationship is in trouble.

You never really know how a relationship will turn out. The high divorce rate in the U.S. alone can attest to that.

Still, if we don't take a chance, we'll never really know what the relationship holds in store.

Even if it doesn't work out, there are always good lessons and experiences to take from every relationship.

And getting hurt is something no one desires. But when it happens, it only makes us stronger and wiser. Next time, we'll be better equipped to pinpoint red flags when we see them.

Don't let the fear of being hurt prevent you from getting in a relationship. Even if you've been hurt before, eventually you need to give someone else a chance.

Sooner or later, you will end up with the right man or woman.

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