Don't worry about THIS

Don't worry about what may go wrong.

Instead, get excited over what could go right!

This is sound advice even for me. I tend be a little paranoid and cynical at times, but I've resolved to be more optimistic this year.

There comes a point where we need to accept one thing: There are things in life that we have no control over. Things will not always go our way, no matter how hard we try to shape the outcome.

Life is like a rollercoaster -- it has its ups and downs, but we might as well make the most of the ride!

There's a difference between being cautious and being so worried about what may go wrong that you refuse to take any chances in life.

Life is short. If we don't take risks every once in a while, we'll never know what it's like to grow and achieve a milestone. The most rewarding things we experience in life -- the ones we look back on most fondly -- tend to be those that involve a lot of hard work and frustration. Ultimately, nothing tastes sweeter than success.

I advise each and every one of you to aim to be as positive as you can in 2017. Some people imagine the worst-case scenario so they won't be disappointed in the end, but here's a better mental strategy:

Tell yourself that things will turn out well, and that even if the pieces don't fall into place exactly as you envisaged, in the end everything happens for a reason. Somehow fate has a way of making things work out for the better.

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