Does looking for love work?

It does, but only to a certain degree.

Surely, one must put themselves out there in order to be noticed. A partner won't magically fall in your lap, and being holed up in your room all day greatly diminishes your prospects.

But you don't want to overdo it either. A girl I used to work with treated virtually every guy she met in the workplace as a possible love interest. Vetting every man or woman you come across does come off as desperate.

That's why, in the world of dating, it's better to work smarter, not harder.

Go to places where people with whom you share a certain hobby are likely to be. If you want to date a bookworm, head to the library. If dancing is your thing, you might want to sign up for salsa lessons. If a partner with a great physique is atop your list, you ought to be spending time at the gym.

You get the idea. You want to frequent places where you're bound to find people whose interests mirror or at least complement yours. In other words, you have to look for love in all the right places.

And that place could very well be the internet. On eHarmony, you can begin receiving matches within minutes of completing a Relationship Questionnaire. And who's to say you can't meet someone through a friend of a friend on Facebook?

Then again, many people report meeting their special someone when least expected; they say it happened while they were simply busy living life and not deliberately looking for anyone.

You just never really know how and when the right person will present themselves. But one thing's for certain: You should never give up on love. There's someone for everyone in this crazy world. You just have to keep your options open.

And, yes, you should put yourself out there every once in a while, but don't force it! If you are finding that you don't click with someone, or that he or she doesn't seem as interested in you as you are in them, don't waste your valuable time: just move on.

And don't get into a relationship until both of you are ready to get into one. If you're not on the same page from the beginning, things can and will deteriorate very quickly.

Again, it's all about working smarter, not harder. Zero in on places where you'd find a Mr. or Mrs. Right and go there.

Don't lose hope! The person for you may pop up at any moment!

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