Our co-workers do this, and it's ANNOYING

I've noticed that every time I request a couple of days off, one of my co-workers immediately asks, "So where are you going?"

They assume that if a person plans to be out for three or four days, they must be planning a vacation.

While that's always a possibility, what happened to requesting time off just to relax? I've done this on several occasions over the years.

Reality check: Some of us actually like using the free time to:

Sleep in
Binge-watch Netflix in our underwear or pajamas
Catch up on our reading
Watch a movie at the local theater
Hit up a nearby beach
Do things around the house, like clean, organize, or renovate

Traveling can be fun, but it can also be awfully draining. Between planning, packing, walking, and hailing cabs, it can often feel like work in itself. In other words, people sometimes take time off to travel and end up feeling as tired -- if not more so -- when they come back home than if they had gone to work all those days.

I always make sure to request the day after I return home from my trip. It sounds counterintuitive, but I need to recharge following the hustle and bustle characteristic of most vacations.

Staying home all that time -- what some people might call a "staycation" -- can be as satisfying as, say, a cruise to the Bahamas or a trip to Las Vegas. It all depends on what you want to get out of that time off.

It's just another example of people making faulty assumptions in the absence of information.

Has this ever happened to you?

Comments

Jeff Martinez, Writer & Proud Introvert said…

I completely agree, Regina! It's so annoying! Thanks for your reply!

May 29, 2016 at 7:05 AM

Anonymous said…

It's none of anybody's business why you are taking time off.

June 1, 2016 at 2:48 AM

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