One BIG dating mistake people make

One of the biggest mistakes people can make when dating is disclosing too early how they feel about the other person.

Here are a few examples:

Saying "I love you" after only a couple of dates
Pouring out one's soul about their feelings after a short period of time
Giving the person compliments that both people know are undeserved

Whether you feel this strongly about the person or not, it's never wise to tip your hand so early in the game. Why? Well, where's the mystery in that?

All those things that lead to a full-fledged relationship -- attraction, feelings, love -- take time to build. Nature has to take its course; things can't be forced or rushed.

When a person professes his love after one or two dates, it reeks of desperation and can lead his date to question his motives.

There's something to be said for leaving the other person guessing, at least in the very beginning. A bit of mystery creates intrigue and leaves the other yearning to learn more. Besides, you each want to take some time to vet the other. Dating gives you the opportunity to do just that.

I'm not saying that putting all your cards on the table so quickly can't ever work, but the chances are slim to nil.

When human beings know they can get something without breaking much of a sweat, they tend to assign it less value, thereby taking it for granted. What requires hard work and dedication, on the other hand, we value highly.

Sound familiar? Yes, we want what we can't have, or what we can't have easily.

Does this mean we should make it an arduous task for our date to get to know us? Not at all. But you can deliver a great first impression -- and be similarly charming and affable on subsequent dates -- without baring your soul. They key is not give off the vibe that you're desperate or will be the other's doormat should the dates lead to something more permanent.

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Unknown said…

My mistake always was waiting too long.

October 31, 2016 at 2:11 PM

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