Why being an adult beats being a kid

Many people say they wish they could go back to being a kid again. After all, what is there to worry about during those years other than homework and video games, right?

I much prefer being an adult to being a child, though. Here are a few reasons why:

No more childhood teasing or peer pressure. Though it can be argued that some people still behave like kids in workplace, kids tend to be a lot meaner and more immature. At work, people know better than to make complete fools of themselves, as their jobs are on the line. And it's fair to say the chances of being bullied for your lunch money are pretty much nil.

There's nothing like freedom. You are free to do as you wish -- drink, date whoever you want, watch whatever shows tickle your fancy, and so on. Having no one tell you what to do anymore (outside of work) is a fantastic feeling. I also like being able to learn for learning's sake -- and not because a teacher tells me to do it. Whether you're interested in learning what caused World War II, how to cook an omelet, or the easiest way to start a website, you can do so on your own time, with no pressure from anyone else. In the real world, getting an "A" means nothing.

Not having to depend on other people. You no longer have to rely on your parents for rides or money for the movies. Being able to support yourself is empowering. Gone are the days when you had to ask permission to do things and go places.

Being able to do all those other "adult things." These include traveling, getting married, buying a home, and having kids.

I realize childhood has its perks. It's a lot more play and virtually no work. Paying bills and working 40+ hours a week isn't fun, but responsibility is the price we all have to pay for the independence that eludes us for the first 18 or so years of our lives.

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