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Some men refuse to date these kind of women...

Some men refuse to date women who don't cook, whether it's because they don't know how to cook or have no interest in doing so. I actually have a few female friends and coworkers who have likely never boiled an egg in their life.

Thankfully, my wife likes to cook, and she isn't too shabby at it. If it turned out that she didn't cook, I wouldn't hold it against her. That would be akin to her giving me a hard time about my not being a good handyman. She knows I am not a DIY kind of guy and doesn't mind in the slightest.

I think men and women alike get hung up on traditional gender roles. Let's face it: We're in the 21st century. Women aren't just taking care of kids at home anymore while dad brings in the bacon. This is a wildly different world than the ones our grandparents came to know.

Men who still believe that a woman's place is in the kitchen are displaying the worst kind of chauvinism. Women should neither like nor be expected to do something solely on the basis of their gender. The same applies to men -- not all of us care about hammers, tools, and drywall.

As long as the female in the relationship makes an effort to pitch in for food once in a while -- say, she picks up a pizza on the way home -- I take no issue with her not cooking. I see it as too menial to be a deal breaker. Would I like it if she tried to learn? Sure, but I would see that as a bonus, not as a requisite for maintaining a long-term relationship.

Do you know how to cook? Does your partner? Do you think that a woman's not cooking can be problematic in a relationship?

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