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Do people like to be checked out at the gym?

If you've ever gone to the gym to exercise (as most of us have at least a couple of times), you've checked someone out, been checked out, or both.

The question is: Do people like to be checked out at the gym?

Here's my take:

I think most people wouldn't mind being checked out so long as it isn't done in an obnoxious, intrusive way.

Gymgoers put headphones on to listen to music, yes, but many of them also do it to deter others from striking up unsolicited conversations with them.

While exercising, we're tired, sweaty, out of breath -- needless to say, we're not exactly looking our best. Sure, some people couldn't care less and resolve to find attractive men or women showing ample skin.

Is it fair to say that people who show up in tight leggings or muscle-baring shirts are deliberately asking to be checked out?  That may very well be the case.

Who wouldn't be flattered to know that others find them physically attractive? If you have a great body and wear clothes that accentuates it, you can rest assured people will notice. If you don't want to draw any attention to yourself, you should be mindful of what you're wearing.

If someone is married or in a relationship, I see no issue with a "look, but don't talk or touch" approach. Let's not be naive. No matter how attractive we find our partner, we'll always find ourselves attracted to other people -- whether in the gym, at work, or in the grocery store. That's just nature. No harm in admiring and appreciating someone else's good looks.

If you wish to talk to start a conversation with someone at the gym, it shouldn't be a problem so long as things remain friendly and platonic.

When you're running full speed on that treadmill and you make eye contact with a good-looking man or woman, it can certainly get your adrenaline pumping even more.

Not all people go to the gym to be checked out, of course. But there's no question some people do take such looks from others as a major high. It gives them the motivation to work harder and get in even better shape.

Do you agree? Would you feel uncomfortable being checked out at the gym?

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