Whatever goal it is you're aiming for -- landing a better job, losing weight, finding a boyfriend -- it's imperative that you NOT do one thing that will most certainly set you back rather than put you closer to the finish line: complain.
You can grumble incessantly over the fact that your current job has made you miserable since you first got it three years ago. You can complain non-stop that all those trips to McDonald's after work have resulted in your gaining 30 pounds. You can beat yourself up over not listening to your friends and putting yourself out there more to increases your chances of snagging a great guy.
But what good does that do?
What's done is done. There's no use of harping over things that can't be changed. Bygones will be bygones. Put aside the "buts" and "what ifs" and move forward.
Complaining about things you can't change does nothing but build negativity and lead to feelings of guilt and resentment.
While I gave myself a huge promotion salary-wise by taking my current day job, it has set me back creatively. Instead of complaining about the bad aspects, I try to focus on the positive ones and remind myself that I endeavor to find an even better job in the coming months.
I'm no stranger to yo-yo dieting and have seen my weight fluctuate immensely over the years. Even I have been prone to lamenting weight gain so much that instead of getting right to the diet I eat away at my sorrows by, well, eating more.
Once you've identified a problem, you should establish a reasonable a goal and take manageable steps to meet it. Aiming to lose 30 pounds in a week or land a job that will boost your pay by $60,000 just isn't very feasible. Be reasonable. Maybe you can shoot for 5 pounds a week, which would position you to meet your goal in six weeks.
Or, aim to get a job that will increase your salary by $20,000 and make it a longer term goal to achieve a $60,000 increase over the next five years. For example, if you're not making at least $30,000 more than you are now in, say, three and a half years, you may decide to jump ship again at that point.
So, in summation, achieving a goal requires that you refrain from complaining about what can't be undone and instead focus on taking carefully thought out steps in the right direction. Don't be impetuous. Don't be rash. And most important, don't give up! If you're going to aim for something, make sure your heart and mind are in it 100 percent!
You can grumble incessantly over the fact that your current job has made you miserable since you first got it three years ago. You can complain non-stop that all those trips to McDonald's after work have resulted in your gaining 30 pounds. You can beat yourself up over not listening to your friends and putting yourself out there more to increases your chances of snagging a great guy.
But what good does that do?
What's done is done. There's no use of harping over things that can't be changed. Bygones will be bygones. Put aside the "buts" and "what ifs" and move forward.
Complaining about things you can't change does nothing but build negativity and lead to feelings of guilt and resentment.
While I gave myself a huge promotion salary-wise by taking my current day job, it has set me back creatively. Instead of complaining about the bad aspects, I try to focus on the positive ones and remind myself that I endeavor to find an even better job in the coming months.
I'm no stranger to yo-yo dieting and have seen my weight fluctuate immensely over the years. Even I have been prone to lamenting weight gain so much that instead of getting right to the diet I eat away at my sorrows by, well, eating more.
Once you've identified a problem, you should establish a reasonable a goal and take manageable steps to meet it. Aiming to lose 30 pounds in a week or land a job that will boost your pay by $60,000 just isn't very feasible. Be reasonable. Maybe you can shoot for 5 pounds a week, which would position you to meet your goal in six weeks.
Or, aim to get a job that will increase your salary by $20,000 and make it a longer term goal to achieve a $60,000 increase over the next five years. For example, if you're not making at least $30,000 more than you are now in, say, three and a half years, you may decide to jump ship again at that point.
So, in summation, achieving a goal requires that you refrain from complaining about what can't be undone and instead focus on taking carefully thought out steps in the right direction. Don't be impetuous. Don't be rash. And most important, don't give up! If you're going to aim for something, make sure your heart and mind are in it 100 percent!
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