Why fighting can be a good thing

I know most of us try to avoid fighting with our partners and friends like the plague. After all, no one wants to be left feeling hurt or resentful.

While arguments have been the primary culprit for the demise of many friendships and relationships, they've also been cited as the reason many became stronger over time.

I've experienced this firsthand. In fact, I have had pretty bad fights with my wife and closest friends over the years. Somehow, though, I grew closer to all of them following the squabbles.

I think an argument can only work in both parties' favor if they each concede some wrongdoing. Both have to be humble enough to admit that while they don't deserve full blame, some of the finger pointing is probably justified.

If, however, one person refuses to acknowledge fault, fighting will only help the relationship see a quicker demise.

Both parties must also be open to taking conciliatory measures. Saying "I'm sorry" is a good start. Both individuals should also make a concerted effort to prevent future arguments by trying to see things from the other's point of view.

For example, if the fight was over your constantly leaving the toilet seat up, moving forward you should keep that in mind each time you use the restroom.

In sum, while many people see fights as only doom and gloom, perhaps we instead ought to look at them as opportunities to solify our relationships.

By no means am I encouraging people to fight just for the sake of it. But when you find yourself in that situation, consider it a chance to right the ship rather than see it capsize.

What's your opinion? Have any of your friendships or relationships emerged stronger after an argument?

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