Here's a quote to help you deal with people...

If you're like me, you sometimes give what others do or say far too much importance.

I wanted to share a quote I recently stumbled upon, which, I feel, holds a great deal of truth and meaning:

"Don't let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

As I've stated in other posts, there's no reason why we should let people "hijack" our thoughts and emotions.

Why should we get so bogged down that a friend left us hanging? Why should the fact that our partners don't always think like we do irritate us?

The reason we do these things is simple: It's because we care. Some of us can't help but to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

Unfortunately, this can leave us feeling quite disheartened.

The solution? We must strive to think rationally as opposed to thinking with our emotions. We must take the attitude that no matter what our friends or partners do to us, we will still be happy and at peace with ourselves.

Why? Because only you can make yourself happy. Your partner and friends enhance your life, but they don't complete it. That's your job. Only you make your life whole.

Just this evening, my friend did something that wound up upsetting me a great deal. But harping on it is only going to make me feel worse. What did I decide to think about instead? The fact that this blog is nearing a whopping 450 posts!

It's all about canceling negative thoughts in your head and turning them into positives. Don't let a friend, relative, partner, or coworker ever hold sway over your thoughts and feelings. Yes, they can be a positive influence when things are going smoothly, but they can also disappoint you in more ways than one.

If you keep in mind that the only person whose opinion you should value is your own -- not that of others -- you'll be a lot less disappointed.

Do you agree?

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