Would you date a co-worker?

As noted in prior posts, I've worked with a couple of guys who have hooked up with co-workers and gone on to marry them.

In such cases, everything panned out, but not everyone who chooses to become romantically involved with someone at work ends up with a fairy tale ending. The risks inherent in mixing business with pleasure are quite obvious:

If the relationship goes awry, being around each other at work might get awkward
Rumors might swirl when other people you work with get wind of your office romance, i.e., that you're getting special privileges from higher-ups (especially if the other person is one of them)
Your relationship problems may spill into the workplace

If you plan on dating a co-worker, I suggest you do your best to keep it private. If you're not sure you can do that, your options are as follows:

Carry on with the relationship and hope no one at work finds out
One person leaves the company so as to avoid any workplace drama
End the relationship once and for all

We all need to make money to put food on the table and support ourselves and our families. Thus, we should thus do everything in our power to avoid putting our jobs at risk. Sometimes, a little fun just isn't worth it.

Would you date a co-worker? Why or why not?

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