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The 4 Biggest Relationship Mistakes You Can Make

Relationships can be an exciting time. We've all been there: Butterflies in the stomach, hormones on overdrive, your special someone pervading your every thought.

Unfortunately, though, it is also during this exhilarating stage of our lives that we can make decisions we later come to regret.

I've narrowed down the biggest relationship mistakes we can make to four:

1. Cheating: It doesn't get any worse than this. Cheating is the utmost form of betrayal. Even worse is committing the act and later trying to hide your tracks. If you don't feel you can remain loyal to your partner, don't get into a relationship. Think before you act! A few nights of pleasure aren't worth the feelings of heartbreak, jealously, and resentment that will ensue.

2. Having unprotected sex: Is it any wonder there are so many unplanned pregnancies in the United States, let alone the world? People get in the heat of the moment and forget to properly suit up for the ride. Whether it's condoms or birth control pills, people should plan ahead so as to avoid any missteps.

3. Ditching friends: No sooner do people enter into relationships than they throw their closest friends by the wayside. Their whole lives suddenly revolve around only one person, their friends left scratching their heads over why the friendship has all but fizzled out. Dumping friends for a relationship is one of the most ill-advised decisions one can make. The relationship can end any day, at which point you won't have any friends left to turn to for support.

4. Having a friendship with benefits: Whether it's a fear of commitment or the fact they're on the rebound, some people are driven to have "no-strings-attached" sex with their own friends. But what a grave mistake this can be! If one person becomes emotionally invested and the other doesn't, or if the arrangement goes awry for some other reason, the friendship will be dealt a serious blow.

Do you agree that these are probably the worst relationships one can make? Reply in the comments section on the blog or on Google +.

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