Why Wednesday: Things that baffle our minds

I wanted to start a new feature called "Why Wednesdays," in which I question why people do or don't do certain things, their actions seemingly going against common sense.

I'll then open the floor so that you guys can try to answer the questions or add some of your own to the list. Then I'll reply and give my two cents.

OK, here goes...

Why don't people who run public bathrooms make available cans of air freshener so that people don't stink up the place when they do their business?
Why do some people think it's okay not to hold the door for someone who's either behind them or coming in the opposite direction?
Why do drivers try to beat yellow lights when their purpose is to get you to slow down?
Why do so many people have unprotected sex when they know what the consequences will be?
Why do some people think it's okay to pry into others' business but keep mum about their own lives?

So, these are five questions to stimulate your thinking. Like I said above, take a stab at answering a couple, or share a few "Why" questions of your own. Looking forward to your replies!

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Comments

James Mason said…

My 2 cents.

1. The cost of efficiency verses numbers of complaints about typical bathroom odors.

2. More inconvenience to step left, or right when you were headed for the right door, or the left. My time!

3. "My time is more important than this municipal restriction. Besides, everyone (who I see) is doing it, and they seem fine."

4. "My penis / my vagina, weighed that it was a worthy risk. Besides, I don't know anyone who has died from having sex."

5. Self-impression advantage, me. He doesn't know I have that same issue. I have found out that he is doing what I have thought about. My secret that I am similar remains with me. Advantage me." :-) ??

May 6, 2015 at 11:28 AM

James Mason said…

Jeff, if you have not already discovered him: Armand DiMele, the Positive Mind. Addictive. Thought provoking. Great listening. A podcast app I return to often for an hour or two of fascinating psychology. His son also joins him in discussion.

May 6, 2015 at 11:36 AM

Jeff Martinez, Writer & Proud Introvert said…

Thanks for such a great reply! I'll definitely look into that. Thanks again!

May 6, 2015 at 12:30 PM

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