The #1 thing men want women to do more in bed is...

What's the one thing that men wish women did more often in the bedroom?

Not surprisingly, it's to initiate sex.

Many men are frustrated by the fact that their partners expect them to always be the aggressors in the bedroom. "Why should I always be the one to break the ice?" they wonder. "It's the 21st century."

Women could be reluctant to take the first step for one or more reasons:

They prefer to stick to traditional gender roles in which the man pursues the woman
They're afraid of rejection, should their partners not be in the mood
Initiating makes them feel slutty

The issue is that many guys are left feeling rejected themselves when it becomes apparent that their partners don't want to take the initiative.

So what is a guy in this situation to do?

He can start by talking openly with his partner about how he feels. If his wife's initiating sex would make him feel more desired, he should be upfront about it.

If she still refuses to budge, it's at that point that he has to decide how important this really is to him. For some guys, this is grounds for a break-up or divorce. Others are more willing to simply bite the bullet.

Marriages and relationships should be about give and take. My advice to women who'd rather not step up to the plate first: Give it a try one day. Don't think of it as being submissive to your partner. Instead, think of it as doing something to please him because you love him. You might be surprised at how much fun it is to be in control!

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