While I tend to be quite open with my wife about how I feel, many of my male friends do the exact opposite. In fact, they tend to alienate themselves from me -- and presumably others -- when they're going through tough times in their lives.
Based on what I've gathered, the reason men don't like to express themselves simply boils down to this: they feel others will perceive it as weakness. But what men have to understand is that we're only human. It's okay for men to cry. It's okay for men to admit they need a shoulder to lean on. Women won't think any less of you if you get emotional.
Sure, most women would prefer that men not overdo it. For example, they wouldn't want their partners to cry more than they do. But the notion that men should not cry under any circumstances is absolutely ludicrous. If anything, most women prefer that men shed tears when justified -- it shows a sensitive part of them that probably doesn't come out often.
And men don't only cry when they're sad. If you haven't noticed, many athletes have been known to break down upon their team winning a championship. I've also seen scores of male movie stars and music artists get emotional upon receiving awards.
If a man is with a woman who insists that he not let his emotions come out, then he is most certainly with the wrong person. Society should not frown upon men showing their sensitive side; after all, it demonstrates that these men are capable of letting their true feelings come out.
Men should never keep their emotions bottled up. Their girlfriends or wives should encourage them to be open about how they feel. It can do wonders on many a relationship or marriage.
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Based on what I've gathered, the reason men don't like to express themselves simply boils down to this: they feel others will perceive it as weakness. But what men have to understand is that we're only human. It's okay for men to cry. It's okay for men to admit they need a shoulder to lean on. Women won't think any less of you if you get emotional.
Sure, most women would prefer that men not overdo it. For example, they wouldn't want their partners to cry more than they do. But the notion that men should not cry under any circumstances is absolutely ludicrous. If anything, most women prefer that men shed tears when justified -- it shows a sensitive part of them that probably doesn't come out often.
And men don't only cry when they're sad. If you haven't noticed, many athletes have been known to break down upon their team winning a championship. I've also seen scores of male movie stars and music artists get emotional upon receiving awards.
If a man is with a woman who insists that he not let his emotions come out, then he is most certainly with the wrong person. Society should not frown upon men showing their sensitive side; after all, it demonstrates that these men are capable of letting their true feelings come out.
Men should never keep their emotions bottled up. Their girlfriends or wives should encourage them to be open about how they feel. It can do wonders on many a relationship or marriage.
Don't miss my prior entries. Click here to catch up on any you may have missed: How to Understand People
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