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Why men want a lady in the street, but a freak in bed

Ask any guy what kind of woman he ultimately wants to settle down with, and he'll probably tell you that he wants "a lady in the street and a freak in the bed."

In other words, he wants someone worth taking home to mom, but who can let loose once both people are behind closed doors.

Many men go through a stage in their lives where they aim to hump anything that moves and loath commitment of any sort. The women they generally gravitate toward in this phase are those commonly classified as "easy."

Once they're finally ready to commit, though, they seek women unlike those they fooled around with. Now the name of the game becomes finding someone with a relatively uneventful sexual history who they can see as being the mother of their kids.

Thus, they want a woman who can be a lady in public: one who is polite, well-mannered, well-spoken, and respectful.

Once they're in bed, though, they yearn for the complete opposite: a woman who is evocative of the ones the men slept around with in their carefree days. Put simply, they want someone who will be a slut in private -- and only with him.

Essentially, men who succeed in finding women of this ilk feel they're getting the best of both worlds.

That's not to say that a relationship in which a woman is more lady-like in bed -- or less lady-like in public -- can't work, but that just isn't what most men are seeking. If you don't believe me, ask a few guys for their two cents.

Would you say that you're both a lady in the street and a freak in bed?  Are you only one of those?
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Comments

Priscilla King said…
Hmm...should an aunt ever admit to being the second of those?

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