ATTENTION Women: Here's a Special Note for You

Being that yesterday, March 8, was International Women's Day, and considering my viewership on this blog is almost exclusively female, I thought it apropos to submit a post today honoring all you wonderful ladies. Without you, this blog wouldn't be what is it today -- a forum and platform on which we not only exchange thoughts and ideas freely, but help one another get through life's toughest battles.

To all the moms on the blog: Thank you for all the sacrifices you've made -- and continue to make -- for your children. I will forever be indebted to my mother, grandma, aunt, and sisters -- all amazing women who molded me into the man I am today. I've said it before and I will say it again: Should I ever have a child, I would want it to be female so that I have the opportunity to pay what they've done for me forward.

Whether you're married, divorced, single or childfree, each and every one of your voices is highly valued here. The fact that many of you have forged strong friendships with each other here is nothing short of gratifying. Thank you for your insightful comments, idea

Even though I'm a man, I stand firmly in support of women's rights, and no one gets more joy out of seeing women make progress in the world -- like earning higher salaries in the workplace -- than me. If I wish the best for my wife, sisters, and daughter (should I end up having one), why wouldn't I wish that for all the other women in the world?

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Jeff
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