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Do you desire book smarts or street smarts in a partner

Do you prefer for your partner to be the bookworm brainy type? Or would you prefer someone more practical who applies his or her knowledge toward solving real-world problems?

I suspect that most of my readers will say they prefer the latter. I am of the belief that people should have a little of both. It's obvious that people will tilt toward one side more than the other. The key is to pick a partner who balances you out.

For example, despite the fact my wife is a teacher, I feel I am the more intellectual one in the relationship. She doesn't like to read, and some of the documentaries I watch put her to sleep in no time. She also finds writing to be a chore while I can do it all day long -- not only is it my job, it's also my favorite hobby.

On the other hand, she is very practical when it comes to fixing and assembling things, cooking, and other "real world" stuff that bores me to no end. Although I can do some things myself, I usually let her assume responsibility for them.

Hence, her well-grounded self balances out my scholarly ways. Whenever something has to be read, written, archived, or remembered, she turns to me. In my book (no pun intended), any person who cannot string a few sentences together is not someone I'd likely want as a partner.

I think this world needs both kinds of people -- the readers, learners, and writers as well as the "get your hands dirty" types. Better yet, we should all strive to have both skills in our arsenal.

Do you desire book smarts, street smarts, or both in your partner?



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