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A key difference between men and women

They say women are usually better at making and keeping friends than men are, and I have certainly found this to be the case in my own life -- with male friends and family members alike.

In general (not always the case, but very often so), women seem to be more accessible, reliable, and consistent than men. Men tend to be a little more standoffish, usually off doing their own thing.

Some of my male friends, on different occasions over the years, have used words like "emotional" and "dramatic" to describe me. To be completely honest, I can't exactly refute those claims. Once you're someone I care deeply about and have invested plenty of time in, I can become rather sensitive if I perceive I've been slighted or taken advantage of by you.

In other words, I feel that I "keep score" and read into things a lot more than my male buddies. I don't take kindly to friends kicking me to the curb whenever they enter into a new relationship. Why? I myself have kept in touch with them and suggested frequent get-togethers over the 10 years I've been with my now wife.

It appears that once men get into a relationship, they are more likely to vanish and/or become flaky with their friends than women. It may just be that their partners are rather possessive of them, If not, they may be the type who throw themselves headfirst into their relationships, and friends simply come next in line.

Whether it's a man or woman, we ought to strive to give a little more of ourselves to friends and loved ones. Life passes us all in a flash. We mustn't become so consumed with family life that we neglect to acknowledge friends and loved ones who have been with us

Do you agree?

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