The last 11 or so months have been quite eventful to say the least. My wife and I got married, went on our honeymoon (our first time traveling by plane and outside our home state), and we recently bought a condo.
While it's certainly been an exciting period in my life, it's also been the most stressful by far. I find myself edgier than ever. Closing on the condo took a lot longer than we expected and was mentally, physically, and emotionally draining.
I don't know if it's any coincidence that within the 11-month span we've been married, I've gotten into heated arguments with my 3 closest friends, all of whom I've known for 15 or more years. It seems the arguments have debilitated the friendships to such a degree that I doubt all 3 will survive.
I guess when you're under a lot of stress, it's not as easy to hold your emotions in check. The other contributing factor may be that I no longer have a lot in common with any of the three. While I recently got married and have no kids, two of the guys don't even have girlfriends, and the other is married but with 2 kids.
We've had spats in the past, but now that I'm married, it just feels different. I recognize that perhaps these friendships have run their course and that trying to keep them humming is an exercise in futility.
I feel that I am ready to let go if that's what is meant to be. I firmly believe people come into your life to serve a certain purpose. Once that has been accomplished, it is time to soldier on.
I care about these guys, but I am finding it harder to relate to them these days. I just finished having a heated argument with one who hung up in my face because he took offense to something I said. It wasn't the first time he has hung up in my face, though. I forgave him for doing it the first time about 2 years ago, but I refuse to be disrespected that way more than once. He and I are on thin ice, and even if he apologizes, I may not accept it.
I guess my wife and I are better off hanging out with people in the same life stage as us -- those who are married with no kids.
Do friendships begin to crumble once you're married?
While it's certainly been an exciting period in my life, it's also been the most stressful by far. I find myself edgier than ever. Closing on the condo took a lot longer than we expected and was mentally, physically, and emotionally draining.
I don't know if it's any coincidence that within the 11-month span we've been married, I've gotten into heated arguments with my 3 closest friends, all of whom I've known for 15 or more years. It seems the arguments have debilitated the friendships to such a degree that I doubt all 3 will survive.
I guess when you're under a lot of stress, it's not as easy to hold your emotions in check. The other contributing factor may be that I no longer have a lot in common with any of the three. While I recently got married and have no kids, two of the guys don't even have girlfriends, and the other is married but with 2 kids.
We've had spats in the past, but now that I'm married, it just feels different. I recognize that perhaps these friendships have run their course and that trying to keep them humming is an exercise in futility.
I feel that I am ready to let go if that's what is meant to be. I firmly believe people come into your life to serve a certain purpose. Once that has been accomplished, it is time to soldier on.
I care about these guys, but I am finding it harder to relate to them these days. I just finished having a heated argument with one who hung up in my face because he took offense to something I said. It wasn't the first time he has hung up in my face, though. I forgave him for doing it the first time about 2 years ago, but I refuse to be disrespected that way more than once. He and I are on thin ice, and even if he apologizes, I may not accept it.
I guess my wife and I are better off hanging out with people in the same life stage as us -- those who are married with no kids.
Do friendships begin to crumble once you're married?
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