Secret to Preventing and Canceling out Negative Thoughts

All of us are prone to getting bogged down by negative thoughts, most of which are triggered either by things that happen to us or things others do.

For example, we have a tendency to become despondent as a result of having arguments with those closest to us, including our spouses and friends.

As I have told some of my readers individually, you cannot -- I repeat, cannot -- let those negative thoughts trickle into your mind. As soon as they're there, it becomes very difficult to shake them off.

Here's a tip you'll want to keep in your back pocket: As soon as you find those negative thoughts trying to get a hold on you, you can undo them by quickly thinking of positive things that make you happy, whether they be your kids smiling, puppies and kittens, a sun-drenched beach, or a strawberry sundae.

You want your mind to be flooded with positive, feel-good thoughts rather than negative, injurious ones, don't you?

Life is too short to allow people or situations that drag you down to assume control of your thoughts and feelings.

Here's how I see it: By constantly thinking of a friend or partner who has done you wrong, you're letting that person win. You've allowed him or her to infiltrate your thoughts and get a firm grip of your emotions. Is this what you want?

Negative thoughts are detrimental in every sense of the word. They adversely affect one's self esteem and lead to depression, weight gain or weight loss, higher blood pressure, increased anxiety, and other unfavorable health outcomes. Why go down that road when you don't have to?

On the flip side, positive thoughts are not only associated with higher self-worth, but studies show that people can extend their lives considerably by looking on the bright side. Indeed, having a positive mindset can be advantageous for the mind and heart.

I realize that in the face of life's toughest challenges, thinking positive isn't always easy to do. But we have no choice but to force ourselves to free our minds of negative thoughts. Redirecting them toward feel-good stimuli may go a long way in helping you get back on your feet.

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