How to Understand People: Quotes of the Day

Over the last few days, several of you have shared inspirational stories about rebounding from potentially life-shattering circumstances to become not only a much stronger person, but a shining role model to your family and friends.

I selected today's quotes with you in mind.

"A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties."
- Harry S. Truman (1884-1972), 33rd President of the United States

"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it."
- Henry Ford (1863-1947), American industrialist and founder of Ford Motor Company

You certainly embody Truman's definition of an optimist, and you've demonstrated a relentless poise to overcome hardship -- an airplane that has made it through the worst kind of turbulence.

Just know that I -- along with other fellow posters on this board -- are here to help you. We're all here to help each other through life's toughest challenges. If you ever have something personal you need advice on but would rather keep it confidential, send me a private message and I'll respond as soon as possible.

We should all strive for optimism. We should never lose hope. We should all believe in ourselves -- and in our capacity to create a good life for ourselves and an even better one for our kids.

At the end of the day, though we may be very different people, we all strive toward the same fundamental goals. As Thomas Jefferson noted, the pursuit of happiness is one of our inalienable rights. Never let anyone stop you from attaining the happiness you deserve.

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