Would you date someone who's overweight?

Okay, time to put those of you who say "looks don't matter" to the test!

Would you go out with someone who is chubby? Slightly overweight? Fat?

Believe it or not, though they're a rare breed, there are people out there who prefer plus-set partners -- the ones with more meat on the bones. And I'm proud to say I'm one of them.

Whether you want to call me a chubby chaser or BBW (big beautiful women) lover, all the girls I've gravitated toward in my life have either been voluptuous or overweight. I have always been attracted to curvy women with big breasts and behinds.

I don't know what caused me to turn out this way. I think genetics might have something to do with it. After my dad and mom got divorced, the women he dated from then on were on the chubby/fat side.

In addition, I, myself, have suffered from bouts of weight gain throughout my life. I was teased about my weight in elementary school, which prompted me to shed quite a few pounds and turn plenty of heads the following school year. Since then, my weight has fluctuated quite a bit.

I sympathize with fat women since I've been there myself. My wife is overweight, and I still find her to be the most beautiful woman on the planet.

I think being attracted to heavy women flies in the face of what society says we should deem attractive. You know, like when we see those magazines that feature pictures of bony women who look like they haven't eaten in months. I may in fact be rebelling against society and, to be honest, it feels good.

Does it mean I have low standards? Does it imply I am settling for less? Not at all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all have different taste in people as we do foods and movies.

So when a guy says "She's too big for me," my response is "more to love!"

Would you date someone who is overweight? If no, do you feel it makes you shallow?

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