Do you believe in soulmates?

A study conducted in the late 1990s revealed that a whopping 75% of respondents believed in soulmates. Of those, nearly the same proportion (3/4) were women.

So, the big question is: Is there only one person in the whole world that can complete us?

As much as I would love to buy into this notion, I just don't believe it to be true.

People loosely throw around the word "soulmate" as a means of validating their choice of partner. We can have only so many partners in our lives-- that's why sooner or later we convince ourselves that our partner is "the one" after all.

But to say that only one person in the whole world can be totally compatible with you on a mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual level just doesn't hold water in my book. I respect those who believe in fate, but I believe that what happens to us in life is a combination of fate and free will.

You may be destined to meet, date, and marry John Doe, but if you're a social hermit who stays in her house 24/7, you will never get the chance to avail of that opportunity. In other words, the work of destiny must be augmented by the effort we put into making our aspirations in the arena of love a reality.

Whenever a great opportunity comes along to meet someone, seize it! There are scores of singles out there with whom you can talk over drinks -- and possibly spend the rest of your life.

Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not?

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