Why do people complain of boredom?

In this day and age -- where technology reigns supreme and people have a dizzying array of options at their disposal when it comes to leisure and entertainment -- people still complain of being bored. This is just mind boggling!

Can you imagine what people who lived in colonial times -- when the George Washingtons and Thomas Jeffersons of the world made front page news -- would be saying? These people had little else to look forward to but reading, writing, farming, and storytelling.

They corresponded by mail and had to wait months for a response. They'd probably give their right arms to be able to live in this era of smart phones, tablets, Facebook, and Amazon shopping.

It's amazing that people could still feel bored when there's so much to do thanks to technology, including:

Web surfing and shopping
Netflix, Amazon Prime, and other streaming services
Reading, whether the conventional way or using devices like the Kindle
Interacting with friends via text or social media

The world has gone digital, and even if you're technologically challenged, you can get in the car and do everything from hit up the local movie theater to enjoy sun and surf at the beach.

How, then, can people still grumble about being bored? Maybe it's that many of us have become spoiled or can't contain the urge for that next best thing. We have Apple and opportunistic retailers that open on Thanksgiving to blame for that!

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