Happy New Year from How to Understand People

It's hard to believe a new year is upon us. It feels like it was yesterday we were ringing in 2014!

We've all had our share of happy moments and challenges this year.

My now-wife and I got married in March and saw snow for the first time on our honeymoon to Washington D.C. We also closed on a condo just a couple of days ago, but not before enduring 11 frustrating months that saw two other deals fall through and produced plenty of tears and headaches. Thankfully, after closing, the tears coming down my wife's face were those of joy.

We all have something to be thankful for and great moments to look forward to in 2015.

Among the highlights of my year was the launch of this blog. Not only has it allowed me to write about topics about which I'm passionate in the realm of psychology, but it's given me the opportunity to meet a host of smart, caring people.

I launched the blog toward the end of summer and in that short span of time it has already garnered close to 9,000 views and amassed roughly 400 followers.

I want to thank all of you for following the blog and for reading and/or commenting on posts this year. I have enjoyed sharing opinions and debating each other on topics that run the gamut from flirting while married to saving friendships on the brink. It's you, my readers, that make this blog worth it. I may not know any of you in person, but I consider you friends whose perspectives I value greatly.

Stay tuned for lots more compelling posts to come in 2015. The thrust of the blog will continue to be psychology/human behavior and how to understand people, but I will begin to intersperse these with posts that dissect the behavior of people in history and in the news -- from George Washington to Kim Kardashian. My goal is to submit at least 2 posts each day; that's my New Year's resolution, anyway.

Again, from my family to yours, have a very Happy New Year chock full of love, peace, and blessings.

If you had any memorable moments in 2014 -- for good or bad -- that you'd like to share here, the floor is yours!

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