Do women like overly masculine men?

This post at How to Understand People explores whether women gravitate toward overly masculine guys -- the ones people like to call "alpha males."

From what I have observed, the vast majority of women seem attracted to men who display at least a couple of characteristics typically associated with manly men --whether it be facial hair, overconfidence, or the ability to be handy around the house.

However, you may have learned in psychology class that women have an instinctual drive to find a partner who can provide resources, i.e., money. And the fact is that any man can have resources -- whether he oozes manliness or is an all-out metrosexual.

So what do women prefer?

Though every woman is different, I believe most look for balance in their partners. The guy need not have to be the next macho Sylvester Stallone, but he should at least be predisposed to defend her in any given situation. He needn't be filthy rich with a luxurious car and yacht, but he should at least be gainfully employed and saving prudently for the future.

I'm sure there are select women who insist on someone with big muscles and a hefty bank account, but these are in the minority. In the end, women are really looking for someone who is self-confident (not to an extreme) and has his head on his shoulders.

Ladies: Do you agree with the above? Would you add or change anything?

Comments

dmpeters said…

simplistic…..men and women are far far more complex than you are painting ….but then that is just my life experience of …

December 18, 2014 at 10:15 AM

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