Having goals makes life worth it

Sometimes we question what the purpose of our lives really is. We get stuck in ruts, or, even worse, we hit rough patches where nothing seems to go right and ask ourselves, "Is there more to life than this?"

What we have to remember is that storms eventually pass. We need to stay focused on the things that really matter to us life. Those things obviously vary from person to person, but we all strive toward achieving goals that make life purposeful.

My goals in life include:

Loving my wife and family and being there for them as much as I can
Helping the less fortunate
Helping animals, about which I am passionate
Learning as much as I can, especially about the subjects that interest me the most (psychology and history)
Living below my means
Becoming as good a writer as I can possibly be, and writing a book someday

Your goals may be to strike it rich, support the environment, and help find a cure for a certain disease.

That's the beauty of life. We all have different interests and disparate goals we can work toward. Meeting such goals may not be easy, and we may not get to meet them all before we leave this Earth, but it doesn't hurt to start today.

It doesn't hurt to lay out a long-term plan in a notebook and note your progress as you go along.

Again, when you find that your days seem a little bleak, think about specific goals you can aim to achieve, even if it's in piecemeal fashion. I guarantee there's something you can dream up that can ultimately make a difference in the world.

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