Understanding people who show off

We all have friends who love disclosing on Facebook virtually everything that pops to mind. From pictures of their lunch to videos of them doing silly things, people are using the social networking site to fill people in on their daily goings-on. Facebook has removed the need to call people on the phone and wish them a Happy Birthday, to mail people pictures of our kids, or to show up at people's houses to tell them about promotions or engagements. Facebook lets us do it all at the click of a button.

Now, there isn't anything inherently wrong with this. But some people go a step too far by boasting of every fancy restaurant they go to and every vacation trip they go on. Why must people post such pics in real time and not just wait until they're back home to do so?

Sometimes this screams "Haha...I'm here and you're not. Sucks for you." I think some people do this to overcompensate for something lacking in their lives. Some also try to paint a rosier picture of their lives than is really the case. Think about it: how many times do your Facebook friends submit posts about the hardships they face?

I'm not saying everyone who posts pictures while on a vacation or at a luxurious restaurant is deliberately trying to show off. After all, how else can we give people a quick snapshot in real time of what's new in our lives than through social media?

But it's plain to see that some people go overboard, and it's those whom I detest. I don't need to see pictures of five different restaurants every week, let alone every piece of jewelry you buy. Like everything else in life, moderation is key!

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