Relationships: The best memories are created with your closest friends and loved ones

I got married in March of this year, and the days leading up to it were among the most stressful I've had in a long time.

But 6 months later, I look back fondly on that time and almost wish I could relive the craziness.

Isn't that bizarre?

In reality, what made it so special is that, for one day, all eyes were on me. For one day, people had to shell out hundreds of dollars and take time off from work -- for me. It was a rare opportunity to get my closest friends and family members under one roof at the same time. I don't think I will get to experience that in my lifetime again.

But it wasn't only the wedding itself that made that time special. Friends from out of town came to take part in bachelor and pre-wedding activities.

As we get older, our life circumstances (jobs, kids, etc) pull us in different directions. Most of us will admit that we aren't as close to our closest friends as we were many years ago.

Even as a hardcore introvert, I admit that I crave companionship every so often. A year ago, my best man moved 5 hours away and I still miss him a lot. Things just haven't felt the same since; he left a void that I fear no one will ever be able to fill.

It gets harder and harder over time to coordinate get-togethers with friends, but it's imperative we make the effort to do so. If there's a will, there's a way. Whether your friend lives around the corner or in another state, both people should take turns in visiting one another.

The best moments are those that we spend with people who mean the most to us. I myself will make more of an effort to visit friends and propose outings from here on out.

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