It's not by wishing that something bad were to happen to them.
It's not by stealing from, cheating on, lying to, or publicly embarrassing them.
All of these methods are cold, calculated, utterly pointless and, quite frankly, callow.
Two wrongs don't make a right. By seeking retribution, you stoop to the other person's level.
The best way to get back at someone is by demonstrating to them that your life is richer and more fulfilling without them in it.
In other words, you show that making the most of your life -- by indulging your hobbies and spending time with people you love -- doesn't have to involve him or her.
Whether the person dumped you, cheated on you, stabbed you in the back, or did something else to betray your trust, rest assured that someday, somebody will do the same to them. It is then they'll realize how you must have felt when they did it to you.
Getting payback doesn't make you feel any better. As a matter of fact, it could actually exacerbate the bitterness and resentment inside of you.
How?
Because you realize that the person stirred feelings in you strong enough to drive you to such lengths.
What's more, you may later come to regret your actions as you tell yourself that you're better than that.
Consider this: You'd be making a much more powerful statement by not seeking revenge, as doing the opposite tells the person that you care enough to concoct a plan to get even.
Indifference is a much more potent tool than hate/anger.
When you convey indifference, it really hits home that you've moved on, and you will not let this individual come between you and your happiness.
So the best time someone does you wrong and you feel that itch to exact revenge, remind yourself that doing so may actually bring them satisfaction.
Instead, show them they're not worth your time. You have too many exciting things going on in your life -- and too many other wonderful people to worry about -- to focus on getting back at someone who means nothing to you anymore.
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