We all have that person in our lives. The one who thinks they know how you “should” be. The one who thinks they know you better than you know yourself  Be less sensitive. Be more talkative. Change careers. Change your personality.  At first, you might take it personally. Maybe they see something you don’t. And they could be right on some level.  But here’s the hidden truth: when someone repeatedly insists you should be different, it usually reveals more about them than it does about you. 1. It’s a Mirror of Their Insecurities The flaws they point out in you often reflect the doubts they wrestle with themselves; in other words, they're projecting. If they feel inadequate, your self-assurance becomes uncomfortable to them. Instead of looking inward, they redirect that discomfort onto you. 2. It’s About Control, Not Care Telling you to change is seldom about your growth. It’s about their need for control. When people can’t accept things as they are, they try to reshape...

What would you say is the most clear-cut predictor of how someone will behave in the future? If you said "past behavior," you've hit the nail on the head.  Sure, people can surprise us by radically deviating from prior behavior, but this tends to be the exception rather than the rule. For example, if your friend routinely exhibits a noticeable aversion toward silly comedies, chances are he will continue to loathe such movies. If your sister displays an acute dislike of seafood, she's bound to avoid lobster, crab, and all manner of sea creatures for the foreseeable future. When it's hard to decode a person's true intentions, you have only two tools you can leverage: your gut and, you guessed it, the person's track record. If you lure someone away from a competing firm to come work for you, rest assured they can be coaxed into bolting from yours. If someone cheats on their spouse with you, who's to say they won't cheat on you with som...