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A HUGE mistake people make on the first date

We all have experience making a gaffe or two on a first date.

Maybe we've arrived late, accidentally tripped, hesitated when asked a personal question, or inadvertently burped.

While these are all unintentional slips, some people make a far more damaging mistake -- one that precludes the possibility of a second date.

If there's something that can send your date running for the hills in no time, it's moving too fast. 

 Here are just a few examples of ways that someone can overdo it on a first date:

  • Getting touchy
  • Trying to plant a kiss too quickly
  • Mentioning meeting each other's friends and parents
  • Discussing long-term plans, like becoming exclusive and getting married
People have to remember that this is a first date!

Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy yourself without getting all wrapped up in the serious stuff so soon. 

You will cross that bridge once you get there, provided that the two of you are compatible and wish to continue seeing each other. 

On a first date, one should aim to be themselves. 

By trying so hard to impress the other person and make all the right moves, you end up making the wrong ones. Indeed, you come off as bumbling, impatient, and insecure, if not desperate. 


Sure, after a couple of dates together, the other person will likely have grown more comfortable with you and expect you to be more forward. But there's no need to rush. Things should unfold naturally.

First dates are about getting to know each other. Both people should be at their most authentic; otherwise, they're projecting a phony version of themselves that (1) the other person may find themselves receptive to, but later find out was a sham (2) dislike from the get-go when, sadly, they would have liked their genuine self.

Don't try to be overly confident, humorous, or sarcastic if that's not the real you.

Do you have a fear of heights? Say so.

Are you into gardening? Let him or her know.

Can't stand sushi even though the other person loves it? Be candid.

Above all, do not try to speed your way to third base, let alone the altar.

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