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THIS determines how strong you are...

Bob Marley once said, "You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."

Indeed, we don't know how strong-willed and determined we can be until our resolve is actually put to the test -- that is, until we face serious challenges that can cause us to doubt our ability to surmount them.

Many of us are thrust -- in many cases, unexpectedly -- into very tough situations that force us to summon every bit of strength we can muster, like losing a loved one, getting laid off, or being cheated on.

The fact that gradually we are able to get through these hard times and move on with our lives attests to the tenacity of the human spirit. Time really does heal.

And just because you may not be as strong as your peers doesn't mean you're weak. Some of us have simply gone through more adversity in life, and those experiences have better prepared us for similar predicaments that may surface later on.

What's more, some people are more sensitive than others, and there's nothing wrong with that.

We all grieve differently, internalize situations differently, and tackle problems differently.

The one constant among us all is that by believing that we are capable of getting through a tough situation and taking gradual steps toward that end, we can persevere.

Once we find the inner strength to face the troubles life throws our way, that strength only grows thereafter.

We are strong only because we've been weak. What's more, we can become fearless only because we've been afraid.

What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger and wiser.

Whatever you're going through, don't lose hope. Sunnier days are right around the corner. Just be strong and believe things will get better, and they will.

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