Over the years, I've had countless men come to me seeking advice on how best to court women. There always seems to a common thread: They shower the women with gifts and compliments, but it yields little more than a "thank you" and -- if they're lucky -- a peck on the cheek.
Men, listen carefully. Stop what you're doing right now and sear this in your mind immediately: Women are GREAT at reading men, whereas we're flat-out lousy at picking up on the fairer sex's signals. (And you know it's true, guys. Don't deny it.) It's as though they have a special radar with which they can pin down a guy's motivations -- sometimes within seconds. Women are masters of subtlety, where men are terrible when it comes to keeping their feelings under wraps.
Men have to grasp once and for all that you can't buy a woman's affections. There's nothing wrong with giving gifts and compliments -- but, for goodness sake, do it sporadically. Why completely eradicate the element of mystery?
Women like to be kept on the edge of their seats in the early stages of dating. They like to wonder what you're up to and be given the opportunity to miss you. But you make that next to impossible if you're calling or texting her non-stop.
It may sound counterintuitive, but putting women on a pedestal can actually hinder a guy's chances of success. If anything, making her the center of your world makes her more inclined to take advantage of you. It's unfair, but it's the truth.
So what can you do?
My advice is to give her a little bit of everything. Be nice and romantic, but do it in small doses. Be unpredictable. Be funny. Don't be afraid to bust her chops sometimes. Stand up for yourself -- never be afraid to stand your ground. As long as you do it respectfully, you'll earn your lady's respect.
Nothing sends women running for the hills quicker than desperation. Don't be a pushover. Let her know that you have several hobbies to keep you occupied when she's not around. Women love a guy who demonstrates that, should she decide to enter into a relationship with him, she'll be enhancing his life, not completing it.
For all you ladies, do you agree?
Guys, do you act this way around women you're attracted to?
How to Understand People
How to Understand Women
Men, listen carefully. Stop what you're doing right now and sear this in your mind immediately: Women are GREAT at reading men, whereas we're flat-out lousy at picking up on the fairer sex's signals. (And you know it's true, guys. Don't deny it.) It's as though they have a special radar with which they can pin down a guy's motivations -- sometimes within seconds. Women are masters of subtlety, where men are terrible when it comes to keeping their feelings under wraps.
Men have to grasp once and for all that you can't buy a woman's affections. There's nothing wrong with giving gifts and compliments -- but, for goodness sake, do it sporadically. Why completely eradicate the element of mystery?
Women like to be kept on the edge of their seats in the early stages of dating. They like to wonder what you're up to and be given the opportunity to miss you. But you make that next to impossible if you're calling or texting her non-stop.
It may sound counterintuitive, but putting women on a pedestal can actually hinder a guy's chances of success. If anything, making her the center of your world makes her more inclined to take advantage of you. It's unfair, but it's the truth.
So what can you do?
My advice is to give her a little bit of everything. Be nice and romantic, but do it in small doses. Be unpredictable. Be funny. Don't be afraid to bust her chops sometimes. Stand up for yourself -- never be afraid to stand your ground. As long as you do it respectfully, you'll earn your lady's respect.
Nothing sends women running for the hills quicker than desperation. Don't be a pushover. Let her know that you have several hobbies to keep you occupied when she's not around. Women love a guy who demonstrates that, should she decide to enter into a relationship with him, she'll be enhancing his life, not completing it.
For all you ladies, do you agree?
Guys, do you act this way around women you're attracted to?
How to Understand People
How to Understand Women
Comments
A distinction needs to be made between "nice" and "desperate." Not all nice guys are desperate and not all desperate guys are nice; they are mutually exclusive traits and I have met men in both camps. I don't equate "nice" with "pushover" either. "Pushovers" tend to be either apathetic or spineless, neither of which are attractive, especially the former.
Desperate is a vibe the guy gives off about being needy and that vibe is not attractive to anybody.