Sexless marriages: Harder on men than women?

Many people mistakenly assume that because men generally have higher sex drives than women, they suffer more in a sexless marriage.

But this isn't necessarily true.

No matter the gender, people crave intimacy. And when that physical closeness is absent in a marriage, it can seriously drive a wedge between both people.

Whatever the reason for the lack of sex, the partner who isn't getting any can feel frustrated, confused, and unloved.

If you do a Google search for sexless marriages, you'll stumble upon countless cases where the woman is dealing with a partner who has a low libido and is constantly thwarting her sexual advances.

The low sex drive can be triggered by anything from stress and health issues to a low self-esteem.

There's no denying that when you want to physically express your love for your partner and can't do it, all that pent-up sexual energy and desire will make one feel as if they're going to pop.

That's why it's important to address the problem before it leads to serious problems, e.g. drinking, gambling, losing weight, depression, and cheating. (Unfortunately, cheating in some cases is actually the cause of the sexless marriage rather than an effect.)

Unless there's a medical issue involved, no one should have to feel stuck in a sexless marriage. If talking openly doesn't remedy the situation and marriage counseling bears little fruit, the best option may be to end the marriage once and for all.

A sexless marriage can be just as valid a reason for a woman to end a marriage as a man. It's time we put these kinds of gender stereotypes to rest.

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